February 13th, 2010 | Artical written by: admin
Artical filed under: Social commentary

There is a part of me that rejects the idea that the lives of black women must consistently be framed by victimization, just because they are not married and don’t have the right number of kids.

It is almost as if academics and pundits think it is IMPOSSIBLE for a women to be content, active and satisfied with her life and her social circle because AT SOME PREDETERMINED AGE THAT SHE WAS NOT CONSULTED ON, experts compared her to her married counterparts and found her lacking. I find that extremely bootleg – it presupposes that there is only ONE WAY for women to be happy and content, and then wraps cultural judgement in a fake, condescending appearance of ‘journalistic concern.’

Is that part of my thinking that rejects cultural judgement the same part that struck against my creativity to spark the idea of Nefertiti? Probably. My story ideas come from a crazy engine of experience, creativity, and interest that runs mostly on autopilot. But now that it’s out and on paper, I can pretty much guarantee that the story of Nefertiti will never show her tying her identity to social convention. She came from an uncoventional place, and operates in an unconventional world as a very unconventional character. Yes, I have met men at conventions who do not like this story, because they believe I am glorifying single motherhood. To them I say the same thing I say to the pundits and the academics: If a single mom was good enough for Jesus, it should be good enough for you, LOL.

What do you guys think?